I'm thinking of having Jon wait until
next weekend to take down the tree and the lights. I have really been
enjoying how pretty everything looked in the wee small hours of the
morning just before Jon gets up. I'm reminded of how happy I was with
the Christmas decorations Jon put up after my first surgery. They are
the simplest we've ever had, but somehow they are the prettiest. I
had been so surprised to be home for Christmas three years ago that I
found Jon's humble decorations magical. I still do. The moments
sitting in the room lit only by the twinkling lights while I sip
coffee makes me feel so happy and content. I'd love to keep that
feeling for just a few more days. There is so much on my plate in the
next few weeks, I need some magic. Side Note: it is a very nice bit
of magic when up at 4:30 in the morning with another bout of acid
reflux. It is very nice, indeed.
Hustle and Bustle
Last year was not a good one for
getting Jon presents. He is very difficult to buy for in general. The
one option that I had was not in stock when I had the money to get
it. I was forced to improvise by making a treat that he was having
trouble finding of late. Thus, Deb's Roasty-Toasty Peanuts were born.
I make them every few months since last year. Honey roasted nuts are
welcome any time of the year. He loved the treats and the new video
game when it finally arrived. However, this year, I wanted to get him
something really nice. My very own laptop helped me find the gifts at
a really great price. I have Google everything on my laptop.
Advertisements follow me every where I go when I'm online. Usually
that is an annoying and often creepy phenomena. This time, it worked.
I did need an office chair for Jon. His was falling apart. So was his
windbreaker. Google remembered that I had comparison shopped for
these items more than once. It was happy to point out that a deeply
discounted office chair was available with free shipping on cyber
Monday. Likewise, JCP (JC Penny for us older folks) had a great sale
on men's windbreakers with free shipping. Jon was out of the way in
short order, but there was still a lot to do.
We're already having a far rainier in
Los Angeles than it has in three years. I'd gotten tired of cleaning
the rug over and over. I needed to get a welcome mat and an area near
the door where we could take off our shoes like Japanese homes have.
Jon came up with a great idea of using a desk mat. It fit the area in
front of the door perfectly. We now have a pretty good Genkan
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Genkan
and hopefully a much cleaner floor. I also needed to pick up some
gift bags for the baked goods we were giving out locally. All of
these items meant trips to malls and major shopping districts during
the busiest buying season of the year. The retail veteran in me was
really dreading this. I was expecting a heavy press of crowds, lots
of noise and lots of really unhappy people. I was shocked to find all
of the items without any real problems. The crowds weren't bad at
all. I found no long lines. I think I was a little resentful that
none of the staffs I ran into had that hollow eyed stare that I often
had a few days before Christmas. Even my unscheduled trip to Costco
was less of a hassle than it would be on a regular week day. I have
to say that I enjoyed the mild hustle and bustle along with the
Christmas music and children laughing. I was particularly tickled by
a young father teaching his toddler daughter how to swing dance while
waiting for Santa. It was the first time in many years that I felt
like I was part of the holiday season. However, the shopping trips
did take a lot out of me physically. I wasn't left with much energy
for the rest of my tasks. But fatigue seems to always part of the
holidays season, and stuff was getting done.
We used to have an open house at
Christmas every year in Philly. The hubs and I had our first hook-up
during one 19 years ago. Nineteen!!! We haven't had one since moving
into our tiny apartment. And then, there was my illness not making
things very festive. I even did the very scary thing of sending out a
general invite on Facebook. That could have made life extremely
entertaining. In the end, we had pretty much my extended film family
in attendance. That was very nice. The food turned out fairly well
despite a few minor disasters. I even held up fairly well despite
running around and cooking for the open house and for Christmas
dinner. That bodes very well for the treatment I'm on to battle the
damage done by chemotherapy. I was glad to see Phil and Jack and
Sunshine and Ralph and Marguerite and young Mister Shelton. I used
to see them routinely for large stretches of time out here. It felt
so strange to have drifted. I hope this gathering means that there
will be many more to come. We also had a bright spot in our home on
Christmas Even and Christmas Day. Sunshine Lliteras was in the house
for two days and nights sharing the holiday programs and our favorite
Christmas movies. You should know those by now. I harp upon them
every year. Really quickly they are Tokyo Godfathers and A Christmas
Carol (1952 version with Alistair Sim). We haven't had an overnight
guest for any holiday since the days back in Playa del Rey. Happily,
Sunshine is a super easy going guest who is a lot of fun to have
around. She even put on a Santa hat to delivery cookies with us to
the police on duty down the street. And she kept the same odd hours
as I do. Good times! View all my Christmas photos here: https://plus.google.com/photos/115054950092873560149/albums/5828120788318857745?authkey=CM3ioNjU8qT9Mw.
Q and A
And now to answer those questions
raised in the blog preview.
- Apparently, those giant car bows seen in TV ads are really expensive. Really. And the dealership is loathe to give them away without a vehicle attached to them. They also really abide by that time is money stance and can be quite short in ending a discussion that doesn't involve driving a car off the lot. Really. I had an old lady shopping cart with me, and I'm pretty sure the bus top I came from was visible through the picture window to anyone paying attention. Odds of my buying a car was remote. And when I can afford one, I'm not going to a place that was so rude.
- Too many of my male friends are willing to hide in our closets indefinitely for a chance at surprising Jon. I had two such offers to help me out together his new office chair. I considered shoving Craig and an actor friend in their just to see what mayhem would arise. I thought better of it later. Jon enjoyed putting together the chair himself.
- Apparently, I am attractive enough for dapper elderly gentlemen to speculate about my fidelity in public places. I had on no ring when they started pointing out all the mistletoe hanging about. The situation was more cute than creepy though I think I'll return home for my ring if I forget it again.
- I'm getting good enough at cooking on the fly that I can whip up an appetizer, main course and dessert in under an hour with a weird set of ingredients. One of my cutie pie guests at the open house had an allergy to olive oil. The next thing I know, I'm whipping up buffet alternatives. My pantry and my skills have come into their own! Can you say Chopped ?
- I'll tell you more about the question that resulted in a whole lot of work when the details are finalized. But it was fairly amusing and quite exciting.
Year in Review – Briefly
2012 was a very good year overall. I
became a published short story author at long last. I also became a
published essayist. I directed actors and ran shoots on my own this
year. We have a web series well under way. The first interviews for
my documentary on Appendix Cancer is in the can. I also came into my
own as a manga editor and a spokesperson of sorts for the yaoi
industry in the US. Writing and editing have brought some
wonderfully creative and fascinating people into my life from around
the world. And despite some deeply perplexing and at times horribly
disheartening developments in publishing (I won't go into it too
deeply here as I have ranted on the topic a few times. In short, two
authors writing in arenas where I have made my home over the last 15
years achieved fame, fortune and even critical acclaim in one case
while I toil in obscurity. One of them can barely put words into
sentences), I have figured out a path for raising my profile as an
author and perhaps even following suit. No, it doesn't involve taking
anyone out literally or figuratively. I have had a difficult time
physically and emotionally from the damage my cancer treatments have
caused, but I face 2013 with tremendous gratitude for all the lovely
people in my life who have helped make it better. And I am incredibly
optimistic that I am on the right path for creative fulfillment and –
hopefully – success.
Stay tuned! And Happy New Year!
Stay tuned! And Happy New Year!